For dancers. For customers. For the curious.
Who doesn’t have a few wishes they want to come true? Dancing by night and writing by day, I look forward to the postman knocking with a little something to cheer me up. It’s hard work being Sassy, but bloody good fun!
Firstly thank-you for visiting my site, reading my words and hopefully laughing at my jokes.
I’m doing a little dance right now to show how grateful I am for your continued support.
I have a great wish list on Amazon that makes me look like a naughty librarian – all lingerie and books, as well as a few geeky items ( I did build this website myself you know!) If you want to make me smile, you can have a little look here
Any gifts received will have a personal message sent back to the lovely giftee… that’s you!
xoxo Sassy
Sassy by name, Sassy by nature, I write to explode the myths which surround the lapdancing profession - standing up for the clubs, the girls and the customers. Its not always drinking champagne and playing with my tits - it can be hassle, hustling and hangovers. At heart I'm just a regular twenty-something posh cockney living in London who likes taking her clothes off...
Actually, the Wish List is a superb idea because men want to buy things for women, innately. I’m surprised that there’s anything left on the list.
Sassy, I know a lot of falling in love does go on in your workplace. But, why do you think there’s so LITTLE ‘falling-in-love’, or infatuation. I don’t want to overuse the word ‘love’, but clearly we tend to respond emotionally when we’re attracted to people. I’ve been in a few lap dancing clubs and strip places, and I’ve enjoyed talking to beautiful women, but I’ve not become obsessive, or sighed hopelessly, etc. And yet in other fields of life, like my office, to earn a laugh or a mere smile from an attractive woman, or to flirt, can start a cycle of emotional ups and downs, even in quite mild cases. You see couples meeting all the time.
I obviously can’t say for sure what happens in the hearts of your customers; but you smile and flirt with them all day, so how come they don’t fall for all of you all of the time? They have a lot more contact with you than most men and women in most workplaces – yet those workplaces fizzle with sexual energy, politics and affection.
hey…
I put the wishlist on after my pal (@Stripperstories on Twitter) got a pair of snazzy knickers from her wishlist. I have read 50 shades but it was a borrowed copy and I would love my own set, so why not ask? I have a big collection of books on lapdancing and sex on my bookshelf but the more the merrier. Hopefully soon I will be adding my own novel to it as well.
I would say that many customers do not fall in love for real with dancers because they compartmentalise us in their minds. However fabulous you are, you are a lapdancer – you are there to be his for one night, unless he visits again. Another part of the compartmentalising process if you will is the belief that dancers are lying – constantly or in pieces. It is the ultimate pet hate for me – when you tell a guy your name and the first thing they say is ‘yeah but what’s your real name?’ Do you really care? Or do you hope to catch us out, make us uncomfortable and squirm. I would say that for 70% of customers they do not really care – it is an opportunity to be misogynistic whilst showing awareness of the whole lapdancing industry.
I have fallen in love before at work, I have also had wild adolescent type infatuations with customers, but I would say in general I tend to make friends with the odd customer instead. Once they know me they are more likely to meet for a pint in a pub than try and get me into bed, as they respect I don’t want anything else off them.
Thankyou for making such great points. They certainly got me thinking.
Christopher Bailey#1
Hye! 🙂 Coming to your new blog after a long absence I just have to say I LOVE the fact you’ve added an Amazon wish list.
A cheeky thing to do but actually quite sweet too.
I also like the content of your list. I’m amazed that you can get such beautiful looking things for such a low price. It’s a modest and tasteful list. I was a bit surprised that you had Dr Magnanti’s book on there, and 50 Shades of Grey. I suppose I just assumed you’d have read them.
After an Olympics in which London actually had fewer visitors than usual, and during a final brief burst of British summer, I imagine you were out enjoying the sunshine.