How to pick up a lapdancer

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It must be on every man’s bucket list to pick up a lapdancer. Hell, I’ve even met students of The Game and Rules of the Game who bring in their classes to use us girls as target practice.
But how does a guy chat up a stripper? And I don’t mean swap numbers and business cards so that she calls you up and gets you to become one of her regulars, or puts you on the club mailing list.
I’m talking about a real life, meet-out-of-the-club scenario, which perhaps progresses to second or third base … or the kind of magical night where you hit a home run and you and the deliciously hot and horny exotic dancer have wild freaky sex all night long…
I’ve thought about this and have come up with my top ten points and advice on courting a lady of the night…
Firstly, a disclaimer. It is against club policy to date customers, and many clubs don’t even like you telling guys your real name or any personal details. So when a lapdancer is ‘lying’ to you, she is probably just doing it to toe the club line and keep her job.
As a Stripper PUA (Pick.Up.Artist), you should make understanding the dancers situation your bottom line. Would you risk your job to get laid?
Well would you????
So picking up a lapdancer is breaking every rule in the book – so whilst Miss Sassy Lapdancer here does not condone this kind of illicit and exciting scenario, I will offer a few pointers…
  • Be NICE Buy the girl a drink. Give her a few compliments, just casually dropped into the conversation. Look her in the eyes, not stare directly at her tits.
  • Compliments; Here you have to be clever. Some girls have real hang-ups about bits of their bodies, whereas other girls are so used to getting complimented on certain areas that they find it a turn-off. These bodily bits are generally the men’s favourite erogenous zones, such as tits, legs and bottoms. On top of this, we fuss about our hair and eyes so much in the changing room that whilst we like getting compliments about our hair and eyes, we may also be expecting it. A clever guy will compliment a girl on a more unusual feature. Personally, I go gooey a la’ Fifty Shades of Grey when a man tells me “Don’t bite your bottom lip – It’s very distracting”.
Try saying that;
a girl’s hands look beautiful with her bracelets and rings, that her eyebrows frame her face perfectly, her shoes look great on her legs, her luscious brunette locks remind you of Cheryl Cole/ Kate Middleton. She just blushed a little and it was really sweet, you like the faraway look in her eyes when she discusses holidays, she has a beautiful back. (don’t massage it if you are heavy handed though… or drunk. That will just cause me pain and I need my body to work!)
  • Compliment No-No’s; Reader’s of The Game and Rules of the Game will know all about ‘negative’ hits – backhanded compliments such as ‘your hair is cute, it reminds me of a mullet’. A few of these can be a great way to break the ice and make the conversation funny, but too many and you will seem like a dick. Be nice (see above)
  • Raise your Standards; You are trying to successfully pull a hot, sexy, cool woman who gets chatted up every night, so make sure you fit the bill yourself. Dancer’s like hot guys, cool musician types, guys with a decent job and salary, – but the key thing is not to smell, please shave off any extraneous body hair, don’t wear dorky clothes, and just exude an air of cool confidence. Most guys I date are people who work late shifts like me – so if you are a bouncer, bartender, or drug dealer reading this, I am sure that you have already dated several strippers. Freelancers, chefs, and people in creative industries are great for dating – if you are a 9-5er, understand that if I go on a date, I may be taking a night off work for you, so make it special.
  • Choose your time carefully Come when it’s slow, like a Sunday, Monday or Tuesday shift. Note when the girls change from daytime to evening shift – a hungry day girl may take you up on your offer of dinner when her shift ends. Or have an after-hours party lined up (NOT in your hotel room). Or even better than a party – have an all-night breakfast place lined up.  Any lapdancer worth her salt will be ravenously hungry after dancing for 8 hours for a pack of drooling zombies baying round a stage.
  • Bring a friend If you go to a stripclub on your own, the dancer will see you as a proper perverted punter, or a sad and lonely bugger. I’d bring a friend or two – a wingman, or even better, a wingman AND a wingwoman. Then they can both big you up, and say what a nice guy you are.
  • Can I bring a friend? Look, I’m sure you are not an axe-wielding rapist, but it’s still scary meeting up with a guy, especially at 3am in the morning when you have been staring at my naked form all night. So if you invite me on somewhere, expect me to bring company – well at least it will be hot company, as I’ll bring one of my fellow dancers. However, if you are inviting me to a club or houseparty, and I bring a waiter or bartender along as part of my entourage, don’t moan – just graciously accept it & buy him a beer. If I wanted to sleep with the staff, I would have done it already, capiche?
  • Shooting fish in a barrel It’s very hard to chat me up at work. It’s hard to chat me up period, because if I like you, I’ve probably already started initiating a future hook-up before you even know that Cupid’s love bolt is heading your way. So if you are the kind of douchebag who wants to chat up a dancer for kicks, stick to the new girls and amateurs, as they will prove less resistant to your charms. If you want to spot a new girl, ask the barstaff, DJ or just watch them on stage – you can spot a new girl from a mile off as their stage-sets are less polished even though you can see she is really trying to appear sexy whilst twiddling round the pole. The old-timers are usually the girls who look really really good, or really, really bored.
  • Have a pen in your pocket. Well, I’m not going to ask a manager or waitress for a biro if I want to give you my number am I, and running off to the changing room isn’t an option when another dancer will just swoop into my place as soon as I vacate my seat.
  • Remember this is my JOB and my WORKPLACE I’m not even going to delve into detail on this startling obvious fact, but if I swung by your office and took up all your time chasing your digits, you would find me very annoying….
So there is my advice on successfully chatting up a lapdancer. Memorise and learn from my pearls of exotic dancer wisdom, or cut out and keep this how to ten point plan on pulling a lapdancer.
In my own life, my #dateadancer week has obviously taken longer than a week, but I hope you have been enjoying my posts. I’m finishing off my date a dancer series with ‘How to date a dancer‘ followed by ‘How to dump a dancer‘ – advice there on the full spectrum and love lives of us exotic young ladies. Please look around my blog and check out these posts.
Personally, I have got several dates lined up this week with cute guys, one who is a friend of a friend but two are guys I met in the club (on different nights – I’m not a slag!) I’ve kissed two of them but haven’t seen any sparks fly yet, and haven’t had sex for three weeks now, which means I am rule-breakingly horny at work 🙂
See you in the VIP booth xoxo Sassy
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sassy

Sassy by name, Sassy by nature, I write to explode the myths which surround the lapdancing profession - standing up for the clubs, the girls and the customers. Its not always drinking champagne and playing with my tits - it can be hassle, hustling and hangovers. At heart I'm just a regular twenty-something posh cockney living in London who likes taking her clothes off...

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  • Anonymous#1

    May 14, 2012

    I have gone on dinner dates with a dancer she older lady we’ve gone to a few concerts too however I want to take this other dancer she’s really attractive. She likes to sit and chat then I get some lap dances then afterwards she wants a back shoulder massage
    I’d say she’s a 9 but I really want to date this one.
    Me at @daz480

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